Wedding planning is a bundle of nerves! Especially when things go wrong and your perspective is off - which is exactly what happened to me.
You see, for weeks I've told myself there are only 5 things that I need for my wedding. 5 things. And if I'm without one of them, it's THEN that it's the "end of the world". Otherwise I have no need to worry.
Five things...
1. I'm in a white dress...
2. Walking down the aisle toward David.
3. Surrounded by family.
4. The guests are blessed.
5. God is glorified.
And that's it. Or, so I began to train myself. I would tell people my ideals and they would smile and nod...inwardly thinking this chick has no idea.
But you know what? A stress free wedding isn't just an "ideal". It's a possibility. The only thing standing in my way is - ME.
When my perspective of life is skewed problems look so much worse than they really are.
I must choose - daily, hourly, by the minute - to be joyful, stress free and peaceful. The Lord doesn't delight in clamor or disarray. Take a look at that sunset, it's perfect, in order and well-done. A baby's face, hands, chubby legs - created with perfection.
God is faithful.
God is faithful.
He has a reason for the little inconveniences.
And truly, that's all they really are, little and inconvenient. That's the problem with the wedding industry. It promises to make your dreams come true...for the right price. Now throw in pinterest, where your dreams can come true with only a little DIY.
BUT LETS GET OUR MIND BACK LADIES!!
Weddings are out of control. Creating stress, dissension and unhappiness, all because your cake isn't exactly the flavor you wanted. Or because you can't wear those $300 shoes.
When I look back on my wedding day I want to remember words like simplicity, joy, peace and bliss. When I remember moving into our first home, I want to remember the excitement and anticipation of a new home with my beloved.
When I remember my attitude and the way I treated people I want to remember treating them with patience and kindness and servanthood.
I'm pretty sure I won't care about the wedding day details. I mean, I'll care. It's a representation of the marriage between Christ and His church. So it's definitely important. But if I'm glorifying the Lord, that's all that I should care about. "Should" - yeah, I'm getting there. But it's a goal.
I don't want another day like yesterday, so I'm choosing to focus on the simple. The beautiful. The joyful.
God is faithful in the small things...won't He be faithful in everything?
The answer is yes.
So if it rains on my outdoor wedding - there's a reason.
If there's not enough dessert - there's a reason.
If I don't have my original photographer - there's a reason.
It's ordained by God, for a purpose.
And it's going to be totally perfect.
Thank you for sharing this! It helps me to remember what is important. Love you <3
ReplyDeleteI remember my wedding day just like it was yesterday, but it wasn't. I now have over 32 awesome years in with your Pop-N-Love and plan on many, many more.
ReplyDeletePlanning a wedding is a lot of work like any event or major project you are putting together. There is much that goes into planning and executing that involve people and when ever there are people in the picture, there can be multiple learning opportunities.
BUT, having the Lord makes all the difference. He gives us the opportunity to extend grace and learn to receive grace. To forgive and learn to be forgiven. To bless and learn to be blessed. To love and learn to be loved. In reading your blog, it sounds like you have opportunities that the Lord has allowed for learning and since He allowed them, it is good.
Blessings upon blessings my dear and know that you are loved!!!!